你必须愿意按照你认为最好的、具有独特性的方式去做事——同时，也要愿意开明地接受反馈，因为当你坚持那样做时，反馈一定会随之而来。 学习做到“彻底透明（radical transparency）”就像学习在公众面前演讲：起初会很别扭，但你做得越多，就越能适应。这对我来说完全如此。举例来说，我至今仍然会本能地觉得，在本书中做到如此程度的彻底透明让我不舒服，因为我把个人的内容公开出来，这必然会吸引注意甚至批评。然而我仍然这样做，因为我已经明白这是最好的方式，如果让我因为恐惧而退缩，我自己也不会感觉良好。换句话说，我已经长期体验到彻底透明所带来的积极效果，以至于现在不透明反而让我不舒服。 除了让我能够做真正的自己之外，它还让我能够理解他人，也让他人理解我——这种方式比彼此不了解时高效得多，也愉快得多。想象一下，如果人们不再隐藏自己的想法，而是坦率公开地分享，那么这个世界会减少多少误解、效率提升多少、以及我们会离“真相”更近多少？我说的并不是每个人最私密的内心秘密，而是人们对彼此的看法，以及他们对世界如何运作的观点。正如你将看到的，我亲身体会过这种“彻底真相与透明”的力量，它能极大改善决策，也能改善人际关系。因此每当我面临选择时，我的本能就是保持透明。我把它当作一种修炼，并建议你也这样做。 You must be willing to do things in the unique ways you think are best-- and to open-mindedly reflect on the feedback that comes inevitably as a result of being that way. Learning to be radically transparent is like learning to speak in public: While it's initially awkward, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will be with it. This has been true for me. For example, I still instinctively find being as radically transparent in the ways that I am in this book uncomfortable because I am exposing personal material to the public that will attract attention and criticism. Yet I am doing it because I've learned that it's best, and I wouldn't feel good about myself if I let my fears stand in the way. In other words, I have experienced the positive effects of radical transparency for so long that it's now uncomfortable for me not to be that way. Besides giving me the freedom to be me, it has allowed me to understand others and for them to understand me, which is much more efficient and much more enjoyable than not having this understanding. Imagine how many fewer misunderstandings we would have and how much more efficient the world would be--and how much closer we all would be to knowing what's true--if instead of hiding what they think, people shared it openly. I'm not talking about everyone's very personal inner secrets; I'm talking about people's opinions of each other and of how the world works. As you'll see, I've learned firsthand how powerful this kind of radical truth and transparency is in improving my decision making and my relationships. So whenever I'm faced with the choice, my instinct is to be transparent. I practice it as a discipline and I recommend you do the same.