为什么我们总是忽略那些关于我们所爱之人的警告信号？ 今天的嘉宾认为，大多数人根本不知道自己为什么会做出那样的反应。 Desmond O’Neill 是一位行为心理学家、前警察谈判专家，他花了数十年研究操控、创伤，以及那些悄悄塑造我们人际关系的模式。他曾与执法部门以及被困在无法逃离的人际动态中的家庭密切合作。 Desmond 认为，大多数人直到事情过去很久之后，才意识到自己曾被操控。而我们往往也认不出自己的行为模式，尤其是那些在童年时期就被塑造出来的模式。 Why do we miss the warning signs when it comes to the people we love? Today’s guest believes most of us don’t realise why we react the way we do. Desmond O’Neill is a behavioural psychologist and former police negotiator who has spent decades studying manipulation, trauma, and the patterns that quietly shape our relationships. He’s worked with law enforcement and families who found themselves trapped in dynamics they couldn’t escape. Desmond believes most people don’t realise they’re being manipulated until long after the moment has passed. We don’t recognise our own patterns either, especially when those patterns were shaped in childhood.
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为什么我们总是忽略那些关于我们所爱之人的警告信号？
今天的嘉宾认为，大多数人根本不知道自己为什么会做出那样的反应。
Desmond O’Neill 是一位行为心理学家、前警察谈判专家，他花了数十年研究操控、创伤，以及那些悄悄塑造我们人际关系的模式。他曾与执法部门以及被困在无法逃离的人际动态中的家庭密切合作。
Desmond 认为，大多数人直到事情过去很久之后，才意识到自己曾被操控。而我们往往也认不出自己的行为模式，尤其是那些在童年时期就被塑造出来的模式。
Why do we miss the warning signs when it comes to the people we love?
Today’s guest believes most of us don’t realise why we react the way we do.
Desmond O’Neill is a behavioural psychologist and former police negotiator who has spent decades studying manipulation, trauma, and the patterns that quietly shape our relationships.
He’s worked with law enforcement and families who found themselves trapped in dynamics they couldn’t escape.
Desmond believes most people don’t realise they’re being manipulated until long after the moment has passed. We don’t recognise our own patterns either, especially when those patterns were shaped in childhood.
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